Sometimes
in life there comes a time when you have to make an important decision.
Sometimes you know that it’s time for a few things to end and a few things to
begin. No one is perfect in this world and we tend to commit some mistakes in
life. But we have to live with the consequences. When you are in a relationship
you just know where that relationship is going and where you want to see it in
future. And when it is not working out for you, even then you exactly till when
it will be there as a part of your life.
Is
commitment more important than someone’s happiness? Okay you fall in love with
someone, you commit yourself into a relationship, for the first eight-nine
months you are extremely happy with how things are going between you two, and
then suddenly you start feeling the heat. You try hard to make things work but
things are not same anymore. You don’t want it to end but sometimes you don’t
have any choice. You have one choice, to think about it. Because you know that
you are not happy anymore. Is it wise to drag it further? When you know that
you are not happy in that relationship and just tell your partner the way you
are feeling. If you chose the former then you are making a big compromise with
your life. Perhaps you are sticking to your words, you are fulfilling your
commitment but on the cost of your happiness. Maybe that sounds very nice but
it is a stupid mistake that are doing now and for this you will never forgive
yourself. All the time you will be brooding over this stupid mistake, your whole
life will turn into regret and if you are not happy then no one else around you
will be happy. The whole visualization of this scenario is damn too scary.
And
if you chose the latter, which is you chose happiness over commitment, you will
end up breaking someone’s heart. Someone who loves you unconditionally, someone
who is very caring and one day suddenly you tell him/her that you are no more
into that relationship. The truth will shatter that person, they will start
finding faults in their own personality and they will try hard to get you back.
But now when you have confronted your feelings to your partner, you are no more
afraid of the consequences. You feel good about confronting your feelings.
Although it is very tough to understand, maybe you are breaking someone’s
heart. But at the same time you are saving two lives future.
This
thing is very hard to understand, many people never gives a thought about all
this, for them life itself is a big compromise. But for few people who give
more importance to happiness over anything else, it is a wise decision. Now the question arises why you didn’t think
about all this when you committed? A very wise question indeed but the issue in
the relationship is not because of your partner. You have no problem with him/her.
You have a problem with yourself. You are fighting a battle deep within,
between your words and your happiness. You are already in a battlefield,
fighting the battle. And on both sides two important factors are standing, you
don’t know which way to go; you don’t know which one to choose. So you take
some time. You wait for that moment when it clicks in your mind which one is
more important to you, your words or your happiness. And then you decide to go
for your happiness. After all you are another human who committed a big mistake
because that time you were happy in the relationship. Now the question is, what
really happened which influenced you to make this decision. It’s not necessary
that something should happen then only you will make such decisions. Sometimes
in life you just know that you won’t be able to live with it forever. You know
that it’s time to let this part of your life go, it’s never easy but you have
to let it go. Because you know that you are ruining this for your partner, and
you have no right to play with other’s life. So you decide to take a wise
decision, you decide that you will let this part of your life go. But again it
is hard to understand why we are doing it and again it arises too many issues.
We have a mind and a heart but most of the time in relationship we make
decisions from our heart. People often forget that while making your decision
you should always listen to both mind and heart and then come to any point. I
don’t who has made this rule that only heart is involved when you are in
relationship and the sad part is people are following it.
Breaking
someone’s heart is bad but it depends, what made you do that. If you are
cheating on your partner then that is bad. If you had a fight and only because
of your fights you are doing it, it is reasonable up to a certain level after
scrutinsing the level of your fight and the reason of your fight. But when you
know that you are not happy and you are not able to keep the other half also
happy then coming out of it is the only option you have unless you don’t want
to compromise with your life. But people out there they make a big fuss out of
it. You become bad in front of everyone, people talk on your back, people
accuse you for playing with someone’s emotions and blah blah. Well it is very
complicated and it is not easy to make someone understand. And when someone
will understand this part of life then they will start making wise decisions in
their life.
“Out
there in life, you have to make decisions but you have to live with consequences.
So you either let it go and free yourselves or you get stuck to this very
point.”
